Love as the ultimate outlaw

'Tis the season of love, trysts, weddings, and anniversaries. Rob + I will have been married 10 years tomorrow, and though I wouldn't consider our relationship typical, we're both happier now than ever before. Which is due in large part, I think, to actually liking and knowing ourselves.

Here's a fabulous article called How to Make Love Stay: Love As the Ultimate Outlaw that we really like. I'm not sure there is a secret to the perfect relationship/s (much like there is no perfect), but perhaps these are some good guidelines. See what you think.

One of my favorite parts:

"If we are with people who we hide from or who do not see us, we do ourselves an injustice. We begin to shrink to fit the image we think they do see. If we are afraid to reveal ourselves, we diminish who we are. If we stay in a situation where we choose not to be seen and to speak, we live a half-lie every day. We eventually become half-people – we’ve compromised huge parts of ourselves to maintain an illusion of togetherness. That lie grows bigger and bigger until the distance between feels like a chasm. We no longer have intimacy. We no longer have sex. We no longer feel ‘in love.’"